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Did I marry the right person?

This is a very good article.
Read it. Those who are still single may learn something from here.
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your
marriage....

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing
on your mind.
Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle.
In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their
idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard.
In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love...
Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say,"I was swept of my feet."
Think about the imagery of that expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then
something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy.
It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.

It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all),
touch is not always welcome (when it happens),
and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you
nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship,
but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference
between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking,
"Did I marry the right person?"
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once
had,
you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.

This is when marriages break down.
People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their
marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
INFIDELITY is the most obvious.
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or
abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better.
But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE
IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON;
IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.
It'll NEVER just happen to you.
You can't "find" LASTING love.
You have to "make" it day in and day out.

That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy.

And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.

You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or
without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity),
there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically
stronger,
certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws,
the results are predictable...

you can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"...
Not just a feeling. ***

Message from Cassey:
Falling in Love is easy but what comes after it is the tough work. so pls handle with care hahaha... even the break up is tough, no matter who's the one who initiated it, both parties are hurt.
ok unless one is a bastard.

Bubble tea?

They call Bubble tea BOBA in US... sounds weird huh... hahaha... well i didn't know the "pearls" are made of tapioca hehehe... alil dumb... well my sister is crazy over it for years now and I am not =D Stay healthy!!

Movies review!!

Having a gd eye for movies hehehe.... So all the movies below are good...

The Pursuit of Happyness(which the correct spelling is happiness)
This is a Great show. It is about a man played by will smith who is lowly educated and is facing difficulty in selling his medical machine, which is his only source of income. Knowing that his family and himself is going to starve is this goes on, he struggle between his new found job and his family. This is a story where a man with low education and low qualification become a somebody. It is a very motivating movie which keeps you thinking:"there is nothing you cant do if you put your mind into it."

Music and Lyrics
A heart warming show 'bout Alex(played by Hugh Grant) who is a washed-up '80s pop star who is trying to make a come back in his career. He got a chance to compose a song for the most popular singer now. He met Drew who waters his plants and found her talent for song writing. Well both of them work well together but with just a little lack of chemistry. Hugh Grant is as charming as ever with his british accent and humor. The show is full of retro dance moves which really funny to watch. Drew Barrymore looks great after slimming down.

Storm the Yard
The show is 'bout a street hip-hop break dancer who is forced to enter university after his brother died in a fight. In the new school he joined the most popular club which is the Steps Brotherhood. He mix moves from poping,locking,break-dance and hip-hop with steps. The dances are good and the performances are fabulous so it is a good watch for dance fanatics. I have seen alot of extremely good hip-hop and break dance before, in this movie the Bboys and Bgirls are not as good but the show is still worth the watch.
*Anyway, even the worst dance performance in the movie is still better than the performances on "The Dance Floor" showing on Channel Five. hahaha...

This week

singapore got 2 earthquakes today.. it's so weird... thou it's not the first time but it's still weird.... btw i hav never felt the earthquake in sg hahaha i donno y but i always fail to feel them... but i've felt earthquakes in taiwan. hahaha
I don think the buildings in sg are ready for earthquakes so god bless us man!!
I jus saw in the news there's this new tank in korea army that can go though water... guess wat they name it? hahaha it's XK2... why do i find it weird? read it aloud... it sounds like SK2 right? hahaha ok i'm lame... but u guys know me... i've always been lame... hahaha
Btw i'd watched this great show ytd!! Pursuit of happiness is a great show. A must watch so ppl hope u gat a chance to catch it.
ok i'm watching the news, the goverment said that the buildings in sg will not collapse by distant earthquakes cos the buildings contains strong in-build structures *I wonder*

Photo shoot

My photograher friend ask me to be his model n pre valentine date on th 13th feb... It was fun.. we went to sentosa for the sun n the beach. We went to a cafe bora bora where his fren works there and hav a drink b4 we start. Wat a bright and sunny day!! Luckily i hav my sunblock and sunglasses with me. Lucky for us it only rain b4 we enter sentosa and didn rain after that, so the weather was nice n breezy~
I love going to beaches but dont qute fancy getting tanned hahaha...
I am shy to do poses... u jus feel weird with ppl walking ard u n u r doin all the vain poses hahaha.... They might think "she thinks she's a super model or wat??" hahaha... so havin that running thru my head i didn do much poses... jus try to look natural... I had lots of fun cos we r laughing alot, joking alot abt a male life guard whom we think is a gay cos he's wearing this tiny red swimming trunks *eww.. puke* hahaha...
Well I hired him to be one of my photograher (FOC) hahaha jokin* for my up coming business... hope we'll hav alot more (straight) artistic model photos in the future.
*U can view some of the photos on my friendster. http://www.friendster.com/2150519